Andy, I have the same engine and we had lot of discussion recently about oil. Make sure that you buy 5W30 approved for VW 507.00 specification. I don't have the manual electronicaly, but certainly can make you some scans when you need.
Hey there. I have an 09 as well. I have the REN radio, but had the same problem. All my dealer had to do was install the UCONNECT module, which they got right from Dodge. It just plugs right in and they install a mic. They put mine on the drivers side A pillar, but I moved it to the drivers side of the overhead counsel (where the dome lights and sun glass holder are). Plenty of cable for that. You can also get the IPOD cable from Dodge, but I've seen them on EBay as well. There was a post in the past with the part number for the cable, but I couldn't find it. Good luck!
